Parenting

On parenting: “I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.”
Haim G. Ginott, Teacher and Child: A Book for Parents and Teachers

Emotional Development. Cross-cultural issues. Preventing eating disorders. Dealing with tragedies. Scroll down and find a topic that fits your interest.

Emotional Development

crying  God created us as emotional beings – we laugh, cry, get angry and experience many more emotions. Curious about your child’s emotional development and emotional needs? Check out my series of articles for Focus on the Family here.

 

Cross-Cultural Issues

Hands_put_over_another My experience as a bi-racial individual has taught me a lot about helping children to deal with cultural issues. I had a conversation with my friend, Bill Maier, from Focus on the Family about helping bi-racial children as they grow and develop. See the FOTF response here to a grandmother struggling with these issues.

 

Preventing Eating Disorders

eating Both girls and boys are at risk for eating disorders. Beyond teaching healthy eating, teaching and modeling emotional skills in early childhood is key to preventing struggles with eating disorders in adolescence. In my interview with Focus on the Family’s Bill Maier I discuss the prevention of eating disorders starting at a young age.

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2 Comments:

  1. What is your stance on teens and dating/ long distance relationships?

    • Hi Sarah,

      Teen dating is a complex topic. My basic view is that romantic relationships during the early teen years should be limited (ie: 14-16 years old), if not avoided if possible – both long distance and local. After that, these kind of relationships have pros and cons. The earlier teens date, the earlier they are to have pre-marital sex, have a higher chance of pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. Also, these early relationships (when they go wrong) can negatively impact their developing sense of identity. For older teens, the positive side of romantic relationships is that they teach teens relational skills and coping. However, I believe this is only likely to occur when the teen has a lot of adult support – someone they can talk to about their relationships and learn how to manage difficulties. When it comes to a long distance romantic relationship, these tend to distract teens from their daily activities. In addition to that, they don’t earn the benefit of learning how to manage the day-to-day issues that come up with a girlfriend/boyfriend. Also, when they eventually spend time together, the intensity of the come-and-go relationship can increase the desire for a physical relationship.

      I realize this is a long answer to a short question, but these are just some thoughts. Thanks for asking!

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