Guilt and the Dreaded NO

i-say-noMy Confession: I say, “NO”.

No, nope, not now, maybe later, I’m busy. These are all things I’ve told my kids when they’ve asked me if I could play with them. Does that sound cold? Harsh? Unfeeling?

When I became a new mom, it was something I vowed I’d never do. I’d never refuse to spend time with my children. Only child abusers and psychopaths did that. But once my children got past infancy and could actually play, I found myself wanting to say no. I caught myself limiting the time spent playing school or action figures. At some point, I found myself saying “not right now.” And that later turned into the dreaded no. Continue reading